Dorothy Heller

A writer, blogger, mother, medical interpreter, bookaholic, grandmother, shower singer, translator, tea-aholic and an aspiring songwriter. Still writing her novel and wants to write at least one good song.

Dorothy Heller

A SINGLE BOOMER AND SINATRA: HIGH HOPES

It sounded like a good idea at the time to this mature boomer single woman. An invitation to an actual event from an online dating contact, instead of hours chatting virtually and not even sharing an actual cup of coffee in real time. A birthday party on a Friday evening for the owner of a […]

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Allergies and Online Dating—Romance is in the Air

Romance is in the air, according to a 2020 Hallmark Channel movie. So is pollen. And the two are on a collision course when you’re a mature single Boomer trying to find your middle-aged soul mate through online dating. Ninety-five percent of the men on Match.com and other sites want to be outdoors, it seems—hiking,

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Teach Your Children Well: The Back-in-School Nightmare and Memories of Teachers Past

I just had a coffee date  that turned into a dinner date that turned into indigestion. My gray-haired, ponytailed boomer companion was obviously in a funk, depressed and kvetchy. This was dating old–when conversations are more about your past than your future. At the next table, a blonde, slender twenty-something couple sipped lattes and suggestively

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SPANX ME: LIBERATE OUR LINGERIE

Spanx, garter belts, pantyhose, oh my! Boomer midlife crisis #2,493– I’m looking for a garter belt that I bought years ago to engage in erotic folderol with a former partner. The goal is to protect my beleaguered lady parts (i.e. vaginal area.) I need the right garter belt for below-the-belt survival. After yeast infections and

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Dying before Lunch: The Mature Single and Meetings with Mortality

Our least favorite topics? Death and taxes. Founding Father Benjamin Franklin recorded in a letter in 1789, “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” if faced with only these two alternatives, I’ll take taxes. Boomers don’t believe in death. Committed to our longevity, Fitbits attached, we’ll do whatever

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ALTERNATIVE FACTS-A BOOMER MEMOIR

Cast adrift in a Brave New World of fake news and alternative facts? I grew up with them. Long ago on a planet far away (the twentieth century in Philadelphia), I had a friend whose father was a member of the John Birch Society. My father, in contrast, was a dyed-red-in-the-wool leftist. We agreed that

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PETE SEEGER, BOOMER ROMANCE, AND THE RED DIAPER BABY

What do a deceased folk music hero and the color of your diapers have to do with Boomer Romance? How do politics and music shape your possibilities for mature love? Pete Seeger –a singer/songwriter/banjo player, long-time folkie, social activist, died on Monday, January 27,2014. “Pete Seeger, the singer, folk-song collector and songwriter who spearheaded an

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Boomer’s Lament: Over Thirty and Broke

“Don’t Trust Anyone Over Thirty.” If you’re reading L.I.L., you’re old enough to remember this slogan–or young enough to discover this piece of cultural history—attributed to social activist Jerry Rubin, Bob Dylan, the Beatles, or Yippie activist Abbie Hoffman. Or the lesser known civil rights activist, Jack Weinberg of CORE (Congress of Racial Equality). Take

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The Mature Single, Sushi, and Sexual Objectification

A misguided ad agency recently published a graphic of an attractive young blonde with all her body parts labeled as cuts of meat. The almost naked model was a prime cut. What does this have to do with mature singles and sushi, you may ask? Wait for it. This ad didn’t last long. In addition

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RENTING FOR ROMANCE-BOOMERS WITH BENEFITS

It was a rude awakening to realize that my rent is now equivalent to my take-home salary, give or take a few Starbucks lattes. Single, boomer, broke—and working full-time. Welcome to Silicon Valley–an exciting place to live–especially if you’re in your twenties, with impeccable geek/nerd/ and/or MBA credentials, and earning the equivalent of my annual

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BOOMER, SINGLE, BROKE: ME AND BOBBIE MCGEE

They clog my mailbox every day—glossy brochures targeted at my boomer age range and zip code–shimmering with promise. Full-color photos of the luxury voyages I can take with my life partner as we revel in our Golden Years — (take it away, David Bowie)—as we leisurely spread our loot all over the world. Adult learning

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Love and Taxes-Why Being Single Should Be Tax-Deductible

I don’t need Bernie Sanders to tell me that the tax code is unfair. Here’s why being single should be tax-deductible. Benjamin Franklin wrote on November 13, 1789, “in this world, nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” Ben F. would find that although much has changed if he were to

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